On the face of it, feminism has been an unalloyed success for women. They enjoy freedoms inconceivable in earlier times, discriminatory preferences over men (well White men anyway) in college admissions and promotions at work, they earn more and the law is massively biased in their favour. They’re ‘empowered’ baby! And nowhere more so than in sex and mating.
Social convention (or lack of same), contraception and abortion rights mean she no longer needs to remain chaste and virginal, hoping to be chosen by Mr. Right, marrying and having children while young, consigned to a life of drudgery and housework. Now the liberated young woman plays the field, hooks up, makes out. She has countless temporary relationships that won't interfere with education or career. Then, when she comes to her early thirties she’ll look to settle down and have her 1.5 children with a suitably emasculated husband.
Boy, it’s a woman’s world.
Or is it?
Look at it this way. When it comes to mating, what does your average raging hormone young man want? Am I projecting when I say plenty of sex with plenty of girls…..with little or no commitment? Or the real dream, have chicks come up to them and ask if they want to hook up, followed by casual sex, and then on to the next conquest? That’s the way it is today following the triumph of feminism.
But is that what most women really want? Somehow I doubt it. Maybe I’m wrong, but, just as the male is biologically programmed to spread his seed far and wide before eventually settling down with his love mate, the female is programmed to treat her reproductive capabilities with great discretion. (The young black man is a bit different in that he likes to play the field a bit, and see which babies come out the prettiest, before he settles down with just three or four of his favourite wummins). Both genders are programmed to have children and most, especially women, are likely to feel unfulfilled in their absence. Glamorous career or not.
Now go back to the having it all young woman. Empowered by an active sex life from her late teens onwards, and having established a glittering career in HR or Marketing (only dykes are of use in any other jobs) she’s now, having moved into her thirties, ready for phase two of her plan: To choose an appropriate mate and start a family. Aha! But theirein lies the rub. Because the years of maximum sexual attractiveness and fertility are now rapidly disappearing in the slipstream behind her. Those years, characterised by casual relationships in which she probably held the whip hand (metaphorically speaking) have not prepared her well for long-term commitment. And another big shock: She’ll find that a very very high proportion of desirable men have already made their choices and settled down.
It happens all the time. Even here in this remote corner of Ireland I know lots and lots of attractive clever young women who realised late - too late - that they really did want a normal family. But by that time they are unprepared for it. Their skills revolve around being sexy career women, and when they lose the “sexy” part they’re left with nothing but a career — usually not a particularly impressive one in HR or Marketing. Within a few short years, years that fly by with horrifying speed, they are, to use the cruel colloquialism, 'past it'. Embittered, barren, hollowed-out husks, asking themselves where it all went wrong.
Meanwhile her male counterparts, having enjoyed her body while it was at its most sexually desirable, are now settled down with someone else. Someone who’s not as liberated as our heroine. And to crown it all the reality of innate capabilities and commercial pressures have meant that he’s now overtaken her.....she who thrived initially on AA but who just couldn’t cut it as the going got tougher and tougher and as her enthusiasm dropped on realising that career was a poor substitute for a family.
So maybe feminism has worked to men’s advantaged after all. The gods of karmic retribution truly act in strange ways.